By definition, I am indeed a feminist. I believe women should be paid the same wage for doing the same amount of work as men. I believe women's prescriptions (such as birth control) should always be covered under insurance plans, especially if things like viagra are. And i sure as hell don't believe that women should be barefoot and pregnant bent over an oven 24 hours a day. Being a feminist isn't about bra burning and man hating, it's about being treated fairly, and having a choice. That being said, I believe a majority of modern self-proclaimed feminists are a bunch of whiners.

Let me explain: For example, you're in the workforce. You're a young female with aspirations of climbing the ladder and being the ceo of your company some day, you have a coworker who's male and has those same aspirations. You both work extremely hard, and one day you become pregnant. Due to your pregnancy you're constantly gone from work for doctors appointments and baby showers, leaving your coworker to pick up slack. After the baby is born you go on maternity leave for over a month, and after returning to the job, you have to leave a little early everyday because your baby sitter can only stay until 4:30. Promotion time comes, your coworker gets promoted, you do not. You are upset and rant to anyone who will listen that it's because you're a woman.

Newsflash! it's not because you're a woman, it's because you've been slacking off because of your baby. And you might argue that it's completely unfair because it's a medical reason or part of being a woman or whatever, but the fact remains that you made a choice to start a family and be the primary care provider eventhough you knew it would damage your career, your coworker worked his ass off while you didn't for whatever reason and that's why he's your boss now. Stop whining. It would be unfair to said coworker to promote you when you weren't even there but 2/3s of the time.

Not to come down on women that choose to have children, but you can't be a stay at home mom and a career woman. They're both full time commitments, you're either good at one or the other, or you're bad at both. There's always the option of delaying your family, or having your partner stay home with the kids/be the one to leave work for their needs. That's being treated equally. Not being able to miss assloads of work to the detriment of your coworkers and still being promoted just because you're a woman. that's unfair to everyone else, which isn't what feminism is at all. You know a man that had to miss that much work wouldn't be promoted.

Feminism is about everyone being treated equally regardless of what's in their pants. Not about elevating women and giving us special opportunities that you wouldn't give to men.